It’s human nature for us all to want to be liked by everyone. We as humans feel the need to please and accommodate our fellow peers and fear upsetting them or making them angry. However, in order to truly shine in your careers, and in all aspects of your life, you need to let go of this desire to please everyone and begin to think more about yourself. Here are six suggestions as to how you could stop caring so much about what people think of you and strive in your life and your career.
Just say ‘No!’
It’s hard to say no to people, we know. The desire to please within us all hates this word. But to truly shine in your career you need to learn to say no more often. Learn to use the word no if the task or question at hand will not align with your goals and visions. If you agreed to every task or job that was asked of you, you’d have a high volume of tasks to do at once, and wouldn’t be able to do any of them effectively.
So often people will sugarcoat things and avoid the harsh truth if a job or outcome isn’t good enough. But the fact is that honest feedback will benefit the whole team and company, and although the person in question might be initially upset or angry, they will soon get over it and learn from your critique. Beating around the bush in the workplace does no one any good.
Dream big, hope high, and go for what you want. Once you eliminate the worries of what people may think of you, it is so much easier to take risks and make decisions that will help you reach your goals. The courage you show will usually be rewarded, and even if not, you learn that a setback is a setup for a comeback. Take risks and ignore what the naysayers may have to say. They will never reach their dream vision.
Stick To Your Guns
There will always be times when tough decisions will have to be made, and when you make one, make sure you stick to it. Whatever the decision, if it’s an important one, there will always be those who disapprove or are anxious. To be a great leader and team member, you must analyse and call these tough decisions, even if it might put a few noses out of joint. All successful leaders will tell you that sometimes an unpopular decision is what is ultimately best for the business.
Concentrate On Your Goals
You know what your goals are, and what you are driving towards. Don’t get distracted by others with their office gossip, slacking off and other miscellaneous tasks. Stay focused on the tasks at hand, and make sure you do it to the best of your ability.
Finally, make sure that you always stay true to who you are. Proudly express your dislikes and weaknesses, it won’t matter what people may think of you. Seeking approval only represses your true self and destroys your freedom. Be proud of who you are, accept there will be some that won’t like you and move on. Excel in your career.