Dating someone new can be an exciting experience. It can also be a toxic experience if you make the mistake of dating someone who really isn’t a good fit for you. Fortunately, there are ways you can spot potentially bad apples and avoid dating them before you get in too deep. It’s a nice way to make sure you don’t waste agonizing hours trying to figure out what he or she meant when she said this or that.
They Drink Too Much
There is nothing wrong with a little alcohol to take the edge off of the first date with a new person. But, you should never get drunk on your first date. If your date starts guzzling booze like a fish, you should probably avoid a second date. You also should avoid a second date if he or she gets drunk. How can you get to know them and they get to know you if they aren’t even going to remember the date? Maybe they were nervous, but there is a difference between nervous tipsy and completely sloshed.
They are Rude to Wait Staff
If you go out to eat or to the movies (or anywhere really) and your date is rude to the people who are servicing you, you should just walk the other way. If they are rude to them, they are going to be rude to you as well. The only time them being rude is alright is if the staff merited the attitude and that’s really often not the case.
They Try to Get Pushy
You shouldn’t have to say “no” more than once. If they ask you to do something or they ask a personal question you are not ready to answer, you should be able to say no and move on. You shouldn’t date someone who appears to have trouble taking “no” for an answer. This is not a good sign of things to come. You have the autonomy over the date to shut down conversation when you need to.
They Are Irresponsible
Do they still live with their mother for reasons that don’t make sense? Do they struggle with bills? Do they just seem immature? These are all reasons for you to run for the hills. You definitely do not want to be in a position where you feel as though you are dating a child.
They Have Bedroom Issues
Dating someone who has issues in the bedroom is a sign of a bigger problem. There is nothing wrong with trying to talk to them to see why they have these issues, but you may find yourself with a very damaged individual if you try to date them even though they struggle in the bedroom.
As you can see, there are all sorts of red flags you should really be avoiding. The last thing you want to do is fall in love with someone only for them to turn out to be a horrible person because you overlooked one of these red flags.